There are certain things which you can’t change: Either live with it and move forward or just whine

Have you seen or just heard a child who cries all night just for no reason or for trivia? They stop their cry only to gather breath and to start again. How annoying are they feel? Imagine or remember it and think that are you doing the same thing? Are you not whining about your luck, skills, talent or health? Because many do it. They simply don’t do anything and just criticize others and starts whining that they have not given opportunity, power or the luck.

 

Life is not always easy going and it brings some very unforeseen situations and sorrowful moments. But what to do? You have to move forward even with those sorrows and difficulties. Arunma Sinha was raped, looted and thrown from the railway. She did not die and somehow managed to live when the villagers found her unconscious and brought to a nearby hospital. Did she lose hope and stay inside the home to live like a coward? No, she didn’t. She decided that she will climb the Mount Everest to strengthen her initiative against such horrendous crimes. And she succeeded to climb the Mount Everest. So, she taught us that we can live and go forward in life no matter what comes our way. It is not easy to even come out of her home after the barbaric incident. The questioning, jesting eyes of people and the society is already too much to bear. It takes enormous courage and willpower to overcome everyone’s queer look and their talks.

 

 

I lost my father twelve years ago in 2006, July 11. It was just after the World Cup final played between France and Italy. You can probably remember the incident of Zinedine Zidane. He loved football and we watched it together many times. Now, the football World Cup is going on Russia and I am watching it alone on the internet. After that, I have lost my only son just after four days of born. He was a tiny angel you know. How powerful he was to grip my fingers just after birth. I felt so sad deep inside and my heart cries with the tragedy. I really miss them both because they were very close to my heart. But have I lost the will to live? No, I have learned to move forward in life with their fond memories. That’s it. Remember the fond memories of your loved ones and continue to live your life meaningfully and purposefully.

 

No matter who you are or how much money you have you have, tragedy, hardship will occur in your life and you have to move forward and carry on.

 

Life is not easy gliding but it is stumbles in every step you take forward

Do you think that life is a bed of roses? If you feel that life is a smooth glide without any stumble and obstacle then my dear friend you are very much wrong. One of my teacher colleagues has no children of his own but he adopted a girl child and live a life of total tension free. He drinks regularly and doesn’t care much about the family and the child. He lives without care and an aimless life and simply wasting it. If you want to live and die like him without any purpose, aim in life then you will live tension free but live in vain.

But if you want to live a meaningful life then you must suffer, must struggle and persevere. You have to be a fighter in life who never back down and stands up every time. I have learned it very hard way in life. The life knocks me out every time but I never cease to wake up and stand again to take another blow from it. It is not an easy practice to never give up. It takes enormous strength and mental power.

The most worse case is when you are alone, even the family members are against you and you feel very lonely. Your family is your greatest strength because they are very close to us and we bond with blood relationship. Whenever a person faces any problem then the family members arrive first to help and support. But if your family opposes every step you make, they block every effort of you make to progress in life then you are a very unlucky person. Sadly many people face that regularly. It is very very hard to tackle this situation but we don’t have to lose our heart. If you have no one then walk alone. If nobody cares about you then you should also ignore them and do your work.

Hope this short topic helps you somehow. And make comment if you like it, thank you.

India can become an advanced nation like no country has ever become: Yes we can.

India can, really can thrive as a Nation and become a gem of this world. We Indians are very hard working and intelligent. There is not any hurdle which can keep us from becoming number one. We are a country of youths and young. We have more than 65% of the population under the age of 35. This is an astounding fact and it shows the capacity of our country. Our youth has the capacity to run the whole world. We can provide top professionals to the world.

But to get that position of running the world our youth must work hard, get out of their comfort zone. The young are the future of tomorrow and always remember that the old write history but the young make history. So, I appeal to Indian youths from my heart to stand out and work hard for you and for the Nation. Here are some valuable lessons which I have learned from my hard owned experience which I want to share with you. By following these you can’t be unsuccessful in your life.

 

Hard Work:

My dear boys and girls, please listen to me carefully. There is No Alternative of hard work. Don’t be lazy, half awake sloths rather you should become an ant which works very hard and carries more loads than his capacity. When I often meet youths without any ambition and lack of enthusiasm in life then I feel very sad. I just want to tell them by yelling, don’t waste a minute you moron! Get out of your hibernation and do some work. You can get whatever you want in your life as you are young and able.

Hard work is everything to succeed in any field of life. You may be lack of talent and intelligent but hard work even beats the intelligent. What will be a more suitable example then the great Inventor Thomas Alva Edison? He told that 99% is perseverance and only one percent is intelligent. Then why you can’t achieve anything? Do you think that the great and successful people don’t work hard? Then you are wrong they work hard. Every person in this Universe has to work hard to survive and thrive. Even the most successful person has to continue to work hard to maintain his status.

 

No Excuses:

We every one in this world has a ton of excuses available for us to show people why we are not successful. And I know they are valid also. I have made many excuses throughout my life. But I have learned that excuses are never worked especially it is only cheating to the self. You are maybe sick, maybe disable or maybe very poor. But if you look at the examples of the great man even in the contemporary world you would be astounded to know their success story. It is only a mental game. They had a ton of excuses but they choose to work hard and forget those shortcomings.

Do you think that somebody cares about your excuses? You are wrong, nobody cares about your excuses and hardships because they have their own! If you smile the world smiles with you but if are sad then nobody will be sad because of you. Therefore, no excuses if a cancer patient Yuvraj Singh can be on the squad of Indian cricket team then you can do anything. It only takes a step forward to walk, the miles will be covered by the following steps.

 

 

Take Risk:

The classic saying, “No Risk No gain” is very true and important factor to be successful in this world. The Neanderthals have not taken the risk of crossing the African plains then we would have been living in the trees with the monkeys. Our whole civilization has depended upon taking risk. Then why you are not taking any risk yet?

 

We Indians have the very bad habit of homesickness. We can’t easily leave our parents home. So, we can’t take our own decision and depend upon parents. Therefore, we lack the self confidence to compete with the youth of world which are self-reliant and confident. So, get out of your home, your comfort zone and live wherever you can. Live in a factory, your car or even the basement but run out of your home and take risk. Go do anything you like or you have to do to survive till you find your purpose, passion. And when you find your purpose of life then stick to it. Stick to it till you have fulfilled it or continue to try for the eternity.

Take risk to earn money, to thrive in bussiness, to learn new things and technology. The days will be not far when we Indians will be the richest people in the world both material and spiritually. And India will become the number one Nation.

How can we progress as a nation if we can’t stop rape of infant and minors? It is a shame for such a culturally and morally rich country, India.

Advocate Deepika Singh Rajawat who has taken the Kathua rape case fears of her safety. Even the bar members ostracized her and called names. But she is firm and determined to continue to fight for justice. As she loves her job and wants to fight for justice no matter what. The government should protect her and provide security of life and property. How can she be alienated when an editor with Personal Security Officers Shujaat Bukhari can be shot to death?

 

She is a braveheart and true heroine of our country. We should be Human before we are Hindu, Muslim, and Nationalists. Even the wild beasts don’t do such horrendous work of raping and killing an infant of 8 years old. It is time for us to think why such things are happening in our country? Women from infant to old are not safe even in their homes and school. They have to live the life with the fear of being raped anytime. where are we heading towards as a Nation?

 

Sikkim is the number one peaceful State of India. It disheartened me when I read in a newspaper that a girl was molested and raped several times by her father. Father and mother are the main protectors of their children. So, if they are not safe even with them then it is the time to give a serious thought about it.

 

Moral education is the need of the hour to curb out these rapes and murders. Believe in God and the principle of morality should be the main principle of our life. Sex drive should be pursued after marriage and before marriage and illegible sex should be condemned and made a punishable offense.

Boys and Girls listen to me, you think negative and get negative result and vice versa

Be positive live positive

My boss is a sheer negative man and he can’t think of positive things even for an hour. He is one of the most negative men I have met in my life. He lives in the fear that something bad will happen right now. He is not able to take any decision of his own and in time. He delays every decision and wait for the last moment to complete everything.

 

My Boss: “Today, I have saw fish bone in my dream, my day is going to be awful today.” He shredded his head.

Me: I said, no it can’t be so sir, be positive because a dream is a dream. It doesn’t have some special meaning. But he looked at me with disapproved eyes.

 

He is the man with a ring of luck in every finger of his both hand. Something queer is present in his defeatist look. Therefore I did not expect that he is going to listen to me or anyone. So, I tried to forget about his remark and carry on my duty.

 

My Boss: “Patar, you did not wrote this.” He said to me in a voice that this time he got me.

I looked at the document carefully and found that it is already done. So I corrected him. He only uttered a small huh.

 

The half of the day he would try to bring out fault in my work and everytime I corrected him as it was not my fault. At 12.30 pm his boss called him. He went to his boss after uttering f**k off several times as he already believed that everything is going to be horrible.

Me:   What is the matter sir?

Boss:  “The idiot said that his passbook is wrongly delivered to me. He is a pervert and crook. I have not even opened the cheque book yet which was delivered to me therefore thought that it was for me.” Now I am going to bring the cheque book from home and patar, look after the office carefully.

 

He drove the car and went to home which is situated on 20 minutes of driving time. But he didn’t came after an hour passed instead my phone rang.

 

Strangely enough my boss was on the line. “Patar, I have met an accident while driving to home. Though it is minor but now I am in the hospital  and I think it is because of the dream of fish bones. Didn’t I told you that it is very unlucky?”

 

But I remained positive at least try hard to. Especially after reading the life changing book “THE POWER of POSITIVE THINKING” by NORMAN VINCENT PEALE. I tried to stay calm in the every situation and to be positive, always. One of my colleague try to insult , jest me for several times. Especially I didn’t liked his tone as it was full of self proud and insulting. But I kept my calm and peace of mind. I gently talk to him, try to be good with him with lower voice and show lots of enthusiasm to his views. As I became more composed and confident because of the positive thinkings he left his arrogance. Slowly he begins to show respect to me in return of my respect.

 

I am neither a big preacher of positive thinking and nor a big success for being positive. But my small life circle and its surrounding seems to me very positive when I am positive myself. Try it yourself guys and feel it and then tell me, does it works?

Why the Divorce rate is increasing in India? And Saas, Bahu and Husband

Divorce rate is increasing in India.

Honestly, the divorce rate in India is not like that of the advanced countries like U.K. and USA but it is increasing at a rapid pace. It has skyrocketed in this decade than the previous one. Especially it is increasing more in the cities than villages but it is definitely in the upward direction.

The divorce is a common word for us now. Some of my friends are divorced and some even got married again. One of my wife’s girlfriend is married to a Muslim man. They live in a big city and therefore there is no discrimination whatsoever because of their inter-religious marriage. She is telling my wife that she will take divorce because she can’t cope with her husband’s religious culture and beliefs. Therefore, as the society is progressing and we are embracing new technologies day by day our personal lives are in despair and in the doldrums.

In the previous decade, the word divorce was strange to many. Either they have not heard of it or never understood its meaning. It was the norm to continue the marriage till the end of anyone between the husband and wife. They had immense patient and understanding between them. They conversed continuously and try to solve every problem they have. And by chance, if the problem never ceases to ward off then they continued to live together by ignoring it. Our culture is so ancient that it is enrooted in our soul. Therefore, they were able to live the eternal life and stay together for this world and beyond.

But, the time is changing rapidly these days because of technological advancement. We are so busy with selfies and tweets that we forget to notice that wife is not feeling well, she is upset and even angry for some reason. Or the husband is home after the 5 to 9 job but the wife is not asking for a glass of water, she is not taking any care and even ignores him to keep busy in Instagram, shopping online. These small things pile up together to become a big problem which leads to separation and tragedy.

We kill our time in these unnecessary things because we are lack of a purpose in our life. When I ask the purpose of their life to my eight to ten standard students they are simply unable to tell or don’t know, never thought of. Even my younger brother who is a teacher has no aim or purpose in his life. It really pains me a lot when I meet these young men and women without any purpose and goal in life. They simply don’t understand that there is any purpose in life other than to acquire material gains and enjoyment. So, they forget to enrich their soul. And the soul becomes empty. The emptiness of soul leads to faulty living and adultery. Hence lack of self-confidence and confidence in the almighty. The end result is a big zero and emptiness which leads to divorce.

Are you bored to death by my lecture? I guess you might be but now is the interesting part which will automatically make you jump and sit on your bed. I bet it if you are a men, a married man. Do you know who is the luckiest married man in this universe? Can you guess? Here is the answer, the man whose mother and wife live in harmony!

For me, I can’t even imagine about how peaceful it would be to live in such a state of true peace and tranquility. Because unfortunately my mother doesn’t want peace with my wife. In between them, i.e. mother and wife the husband becomes a football which is wanted and chased by both party to score a goal. And the serial makers, advertisers knows it very well and run many serials and advertises in this topic of Saas-Bahu.

I just want to tell the ladies that just think of your Bahu as your own daughter. Imagine if your daughter finds at the same position then how you would feel then. Or at least treat them as your students if you can’t think them as your own daughter. And to the wives, it is your duty and moralty to treat your Saas as your own mother. She is not young as you, she may lack education and may not understand many things but you have to handle the situation carefully and with humanity.

What can I do other than write and hope that the situation changes in the better way. Thank you and God bless you

The suicidal tendency: Lack of the core belief system

One of my ten standard students had committed suicide this year! What a tragic scene that was. I was not able to sleep properly for several nights. After the investigation, it is found out that he was mentally ill for several years. His parents also went to the mental hospital but there was no progress and he was already in the grip of alcohol and drugs. This is the first suicidal case which has shaken me harshly.

 

When I think about the many suicidal cases which are becoming epidemic has one core cause other than the mental illness. The mental illness and loneliness is not the main cause for rising amount of suicides in India. It is the lack of a belief system. The belief in God and in the self is lost in this hectic, restless society. People are so lost in earning, acquisition of material things that they lost the presence of God in their life. Therefore it can’t be the cause of mental illness when all the doctors and hospitals are available in every corner of the districts of India. It is the emptiness within our soul is the cause.

 

Our core belief system that was rooted deeper is weakening day by day. We have imported the concept of ‘Nihilism’ from the west. It is our bad habit that we only learn the bad things rather than good things from others. The Nihilist believes that there is only one life to be live off and they reject the concept of reincarnation and even don’t believe in God.

 

This emptiness of the soul is the main reason for increasing suicidal amount. When we lack in belief of God then we left no meaning and purpose of life. Therefore the self-belief or confidence is also shaken and vanished day by day. Which is a complete disaster.

We have to think that we are the children of God who are assigned to do their part in the life. God is with us every time, everywhere and in every situation. God loves us and he will call us when our time will be over. But the time is not yet till we complete the works assigned by God. Till then we have to live with joy, knowing that there is a meaning of everything we are doing and yet to do.

Return of Indian illegal migrants from U.K.: When the Bangladeshi’s will be send back to Bangladesh?

It is hard to believe that Indians are being terminated from The U.K. because of living illegally there. And how many days they have given to the Indian authorities you think? Only 15 days for the persons with the possession of valid documents! And the security agencies in India were given 72 days to verify the antecedents of document less illegal migrants. They have also made it clear that if no report was produced within the stipulated time, then the illegal migrant would be deported automatically.

 

The agreement which was assured to sign by Minister of State for Home Affairs, Kiren Rijiju during his visit of London earlier this year is now on indefinite hold after the National Security Advisor Ajit Doval conveyed that the 15-day time limit is unworkable. This is only an example of the western countries promptness and advancement. They want to and will sure be able to terminate the illegal migrants from their whole country within 15 days! And with all the blah blah of technological advancements of our country, we have not been able to identify the illegal immigrants from Bangladesh even after three years passed from a small state of India, i.e Assam. What a shame on us! We have to learn from these nations like the U.K., the USA to expedite the process of identifying and deporting the illegal immigrants from India.

 

Our officials and governments are taking the trial and win method of dealing with the problem. They are learning by doing the wrong things first which is great for a grade one student for learning how to draw. But as a matured person and adults we had to have a plan by contemplating the situation. But w think we are all in one and know everything. We are ashamed of learning from others even if it wastes our infinite time to do it our self. And there is the fortune to be made in the process of identifying the illegal immigrants! Most of the officials from top to bottom will be benefited by taking bribes, forging documents and misusing the government funds. The money meant for the lower grade officials will be grafted by the higher officials, at least most of it.

 

With this type of anomaly and the uncountable holes in the system, it is a tough ride for the Indians to cope with the pace of those western developed countries, forget about competing them. And there is a big (?) whether we will be able to terminate the illegal immigrants from Assam.

 

How does it feels to be a worker for three years of updating NRC, Assam

We should be proud of, everyone says and we really are proud of being the part of it, the updating process of National Register of Citizens (NRC), Assam. Because it is a work for the whole Assamese community, the Indian government, and the honorable Supreme Court. We are proud that we are contributing our three valuable years for the purpose of NRC update process.

 

We have been working hard even in holidays and even on Sundays. What do we get in return? A rupee or two per day! Look at the rate of the remuneration for doing such a hard work. We have to forget about our personal life, the family, and the vacation. The Boss always hangs a sharp knife on the edge of the neck. If you do something other than I ordered you will lose your Government job or may go to jail. Why should we do such a hard work? For the nation? What is the nation doing in turn? Not making a clear-cut strategy to depot the foreigners from Bangladesh. Rather they want to bring crores of Bangladeshi to settle in Assam. Only a word I missed in the previous line, ‘The Hindu’.

 

What is the matter that we stumbled our heads on the table to solve the ambiguous documents, almost invincible forged documents and the ever running, vanishing case of ‘D’ voters, the case pending and Declared foreigners? When will our govt make treaties with Bangladesh? With 56 inches of the chest of our Honorable Prime Minister, we are still so timid that we don’t have the courage to talk straightforwardly with Hasina govt.

 

India is not a communal nation, but a democratic one with equal right for every religion. But, if the Hindu Bangladeshi’s are allowed to stay in India, Assam then the NRC would become irrelevant. And with the notion of our constitution, we should allow everyone irrespective of their caste creed and religion to stay in Assam, India without any permit, visa or passport. My God, India is becoming a free country a true global brotherhood and statehood. Lord bless India.

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Where is our society going: The negative influence of the Social Media

Social Media is no doubt a very useful tool for us to communicate with our friends and families and to enhance our talents. It is a tool which is used by almost every other People of the world. It has a tremendous effect on the people as a whole. Politicians use it to win elections, anti-social elements use it to develop unrest in the society.

Look at how the leak of Facebook users behavior had helped the Trump govt to come into power. The Congress party in India is also alleged in the tempering of data from Facebook in their favor. And it is uncountable of how much hatred and fake news is delivered in the different types of social media per day. Even the police and government can’t control such large-scale violation of cybercrime.



Our subconscious mind is more powerful than our conscious mind and it can literally do anything. And the subconscious mind is slow to be developed certain perception and understandings. But once it is in the subconscious then it can’t be removed easily. Actually, it is very hard to restructure our subconscious mind. So, the social media enters slowly day by day into our subconscious mind. As we use the social media daily and extensively the impact of it on our subconscious can’t be removed easily. It is very true in the tragic and inhuman incident of Karbi Anglong. Two young men, Nilotpal Das, and Abhijit Nath were lynched, slaughtered for nothing but rumors in the social media of ‘entering 500 demons from Bihar’. What a shame for us! They yelled we are Assamese, they said their parent’s names but in vain. The bar barbarous crowd listen to nothing of the two young Engineers One of whom was a sound Engineer and the other an established businessman.



The duo went to the Karbi Anglong to enjoy the nature, to listen and record the voice of nature and to forget themselves in the natural beauty of the landscape. But they didn’t think for a second that they can be killed like a mad dog by the crowd with the minds filled with rumors and superstition. So, it is a very ugly side of the social media. Therefore it is time that the Government should monitor the social media strictly and draw such measures that the cybercriminals are drawn to the jails before they even think of doing the crime. Otherwise, the days are not far away when there will be communal violence and tensions would prevail in the whole country.