Month: June 2018

I am an Introvert: I don’t need to come out of my shell! Neither you.

I know very well being an introvert myself that how hard it is to socialize and live with the social norms. I have a very few friends and they are also introverts like me. Our parents and school teaches us to become more socialize and come out of our shell. They simply tell that we are some freaking, awkward human being lost inside our mind forever. Our parents even think and afraid that we may become mad or cut out of the society.

 

 

Friends from my school and college didn’t understand me as I was lost in my own world inside my brain. I often create an imaginary world and lost there for many hours without knowing or realizing about it. I feel worse in a gathering, party, and functions. At these times when I attend any of it my nervousness is shown out. Sometimes I sweat a lot, actually most of the times. Even when I am in front of my students my sweating will continue in the summer days. Don’t know why but I become nervous in front of many people and like to work and stay alone, other than my wife. Many times my colleagues complain that they have been calling me or saying something to me but I was not listening. Actually, I was lost in thoughts so much that there was not any presence of my colleagues and any other human beings.

 

 

And I really hates the small talkers. My talks with the small talkers are so discouraging that they dare to continue to talk to me. Even one of my girlfriend whom I was dating long ago complained that I didn’t talk more than “How are you? Are you okay, fine?” whenever I met her. Obviously,  the relationship didn’t last long. Sometimes when I drive a motorcycle and drive back my home I forget to stop by my home and go forward because I was thinking about something deep inside my mind. Because of this habit or the introvert mind people laugh at me at my back and they think that I am … whatever, I don’t really care about that, thinking of others because you can’t stop others every time and everything they do.

 

When people want a conversation then they brag about something. Especially they complain about the weather at that time. If it is hot and humid like now then they will just begin with the weather by almost yelling,

“I can’t bear this heat and humidity, how bad is this! Simply a monster and I hate the summer days but love the cool winter.”

“So what? It is summer time and it is ought to get hot and humid.” I reply and they soon shut their mouth without further hurting my adventure going on inside my mind. I know and experience that they also brag about the cold in the winter. They simply like the preppy talk to continue and waste their and others time. I can’t bear these preppy, small, worthless talks for more than a minute. They know with my behavior that I am not enjoying their talks. But it is not that I never talk. Yes, I do talk with my intimate friends and my wife for hours. We simply talk about some topic important rather than the preppy talks.

 

 

Introverts might not enjoy parties, but that isn’t because they’re afraid of them. It’s because they’re easily bored by them. They’d rather love to read a book and write something meaningful. They want to live by the moment and do things which energize them and fulfill them.

Indeed, many of the greatest inventors, engineers, creators, thinkers, writers, artists and revolutionaries have possessed the traits of introversion. Einstein, Newton, Yeats, Proust, Shakespeare, Orwell, Edison, Plato, Bill Gates — all introverts. And all incredibly successful BECAUSE of this trait, not in spite of it. Today I’m sure we’d tell Newton to “come out of his shell”. We’d be offended by Plato because he doesn’t stop to talk about the weather every time we pass him in the hall.

 

 

The reason that all the geniuses who have changed the world and still have been changing are introverts because they love to work alone. If you can’t shut your mouth for a minute then when will you think about a useful thing? You need to keep quiet and sit hours lonely in order to research, think, write, read, draw, create etc. Which an introvert can. So, don’t be embarrassed if you can’t enjoy and become the center of attention in the party because you could change the whole world for good.

Building a house: It takes great tolls on your life, especially for the middle class.

For me, as a middle-class man, it is a scariest of things to build a house of own. It wears you out even before the actual work of building a house. Because it is supercritical and hard to get funding for the middle-class people like me. Luckily enough, I have a government service with a very minimal salary. The Assam Government has announced the scheme known as ‘Apon Ghar’ or ‘Own House’ with 5% approx interest rates. Hearing the scheme brought juice to my mouth. Finally, I would have a house of my own, I thought. Because it will take only a very small amount of document compared to the large heap of documents for other general housing loans, it claimed.

 

But Hola! When I have embraced my waist and get set to acquire the documents then only I came to know that it also requires a mountain of documents from land to salary slip, Engineers masterplan to many signatures of DDO. It is an endless battle for me in order to get that loan to build my own house. After many hassles, I was able to gather the documents but in vain. I came to know that the salary account should be transferred from the United Bank of India to the State Bank of India because the loan was provided by SBI. I have personally consulted the Branch Manager of UBI bank. He always assured of coming to the facility to their branch just next month which never came. I was able to claim for the ‘Apon Ghar’ loan only after the SBI has made a change to their process of enrollment for the other bank’s salary account holders. Finally, after many months of wait and rigorous hard work I was able to get the Housing Loan provided by the state government of Assam.

 

Now the construction is going on and I am very positive that it will complete after a couple of months. But the beginning was very hard. Whenever I asked people about building a house they only tell, show the negative expects of the process. One of my colleagues answered that it is very hard to construct a house and takes so much money. He was building a house of two slabs and completed the ground floor. He told me that 25 lakhs was gone and still counting. Whereas, the loan amount will be only fifteen lakhs which I will get.

 

Whenever I asked people they doubled or even tripled their expenses. One of my girl friend’s father had built a house with the ground floor completed and an additional slab with it had cost them 35 lakhs, as she told me. I was more than shocked by it. I estimated that my house with one slab and the ground floor will cost me maximum 16 lakhs. Actually, it depends upon you how much you want to spend. As I have told you that I am a middle-class man, therefore, my house will be built on budget suited for me. That’s it. If you want to construct your own house for whatever reason just wait till the right moment and take benefits of schemes provided by the Central or State Government.

Anushka and Virat had done the right thing. Appreciate and encourage it rather than to criticize it.

Arhan Singh has sent legal notice against Virat Kohli, the cricketer and the diva, actress Anushka Sharma. Because they have posted a video of throwing garbage by Arhan Singh and Anushka reacting to it. Arhan Singh is the most crook, shameless person I have ever seen. His mind is so full of shit that he has not seen his mistake and instead of apologizing publicly he has sent the legal notice to the couple.

 

 

The video went viral when the couple posts it on social media. It is very sad and hopeless to know that many people are actually telling it a publicity stunt. Even a Congress leader Jadav has jumped into the conversation and said against the couple. Arman has alleged the couple that their behavior is more trash than his trash thrown on the street. I have seen the video and found nothing trash talks other than an outraged woman wanting to teach a grown up man where to throw the garbage.

 

 

Arman Singh represents a member of the society which is rich, powerful but forgot about the basic sanity. They are the people who throw their garbage in neighbors place, who pee on the roadside without caring passerby’s, which are only self-centered and don’t give a damn about the Country, it’s people or whatsoever. And what about the society as a whole? The society is on the verge of being rote. Littering garbage and throwing litters on the road itself has become so common that nobody bothers nowadays. We should thank Anushka and Kohli for spreading awareness. They deserve a great appreciation not a legal notice for this and instead the culprit Arhan Singh should be punished. My dear society with people you have to change yourself first to bring change to the Nation.

 

 

The political parties are the worst entrepreneur of the good-doers. They only know, want to open. They have sniffed something beneficial to the other party so no matter what will oppose vehemently. They do nothing good themselves and only criticize the opposition party. These parties are the true hinder, enemy in the development of a Nation. In the video, Anushka is so furious and scolding the person who was a well educated and traveling in an SUV. We have to bring that furiousness in our mind, body, and soul. Retain that and change the situation of our country from dirty to a clean one. Let the fire burn and clean every single piece of garbage from this beautiful Country.